How to Deal with Bullies

Dealingwithbullies.PNGDear My Heavenly Father,
I am broken. Sadness consumes me. I feel completely alone. No one will look me in the eye. I sit at a lunch table and everyone leaves. Girls I’ve been friends with since third grade. I am an outcast. Lord, I don’t understand. I don’t understand why I have this label. I’m depressed. Everything that once gave me happiness I just don’t have the energy for anymore. I feel worthless. Lord, why am I being treated like this? Why am I shut out of every relationship I once had. Why do boys feel like they can treat me however they want? Why do the girls go along with it? Are they afraid that they will be next? Father, rescue me. Empower me. I want to feel your love. I want to feel accepted. I need you.

Your daughter

Have you ever been bullied? Have you ever been been to feel as though you are worthless or undeserving of love? Middle school, high school, and college are all difficult years, there is no getting around it. Throughout middle school and high school I was bullied. I remember feeling alone, isolated, even worthless. Those years were tough. One thing I wish someone would’ve told me was my identity. I wish so badly someone would’ve explained to me how precious I was and how much God loved me. If you have gone through something similar or are going through it now, I want you to hold fast to these truths about who you are.

1.Your Identity is in Christ

This is who you are. This is your defining characteristic. This is the only thing that truly matters. You have been saved by the blood of Christ and no one can take that identity from you. No matter how hard they try. No matter how they treat you or make you feel. Romans 8:37-39 are my favorite verses, “we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

NOTHING can separate us from His perfect love.

2. You are Beautiful

I want you to know that. You are beautiful. You are beautiful because God created you. You are God’s beautiful and perfect creation. David explains in Psalm 139, “For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb.I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
You are God’s best creation.
Describing a woman of high character Proverbs 31 states that “she is far more precious than jewels.” Your worth and beauty is found in the one who saves you. Your hope rests in Him.

3. God Approves of You

I struggle with wanting people to like me. Throughout middle school and high school, I just wanted to be liked. I tried and clearly failed (lol). I wish someone would have reminded me that God approved of me. God loved me so much that He sent His son to die for me. God loves you so much He sent His son to die for you and poured his righteous wrath out on His son so that He could be reconciled with you.

God loves you.

He approves of you.

He heard the lies those boys said about you, he saw the way those girls rejected you, and He wants you to know that His opinion is the only one that matters. His love is redeeming and powerful. He rescues his children from death.

4. Boys Do Not Define You

I think this is always going to be a struggle for women. It is so easy to caught up in relationships or in that desire to find “the one.” But Christ should be your #1 and not guys. As women, we live in this society where we all want to look a certain way for validation, to feel accepted and attractive. Before you get into any relationship, I want you to understand your relationship with the Lord. I want you to understand just how amazing, beautiful, loved, and cherished you are. I want you to understand that this because I want you to walk away the first time he calls you an unkind name or yells at you. The first time he is talking to other girls behind your back.

If you understand your value, your beauty, your worth, you won’t settle for guys who treat you less than a daughter of the King.

If you are dealing with bullies or being rejected, hold fast to these truths. Abide in God and go to school everyday armed with the knowledge of who you are and how precious and beautiful you are. Walk in the power and knowledge that God approves of you and you do not need to approval of man. You have been accepted.


Discovering God’s Will

FullSizeRender-3Fear gripped her. A lump began to swell in her throat. Booths representing 500 companies from around the state filled the auditorium. She clutched her black leather case holding copies of her resume. Anxiety was etched on every inch of her face. This was her worst nightmare. Four years had gone by so fast. With graduation rapidly approaching, it was time to find one of those job things. Was she really expected to just walk up to these professionals and convince them to pay her when she has zero experience aside from her degree? Just the idea of being on her own, in a new city, completely independent made her want to curl up into a ball and binge-watch Netflix until the problem just evaporated.

Have you ever reached a point in your life where you have no idea what God wants you to do? Maybe you are about to graduate college and the idea of heading into a 9-5 job is terrifying. I know it was for me. Maybe you are unhappy with your current job and are questioning whether or not God wants you to transition into a different one. Or you could be facing friendship or dating issues and have no idea how to handle them. If you have hit that road block and have been crying out to the Lord to reveal His will to you, I have some practical guidelines on where you can discover God’s will for your life.

1. Read His Word

All scripture is “God breathed and useful for correcting, rebuking, and training up into righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16-17). That means all scripture. The Bible is the primary way that God speaks to us. It is His revealed will to us. He lays out exactly how He want us to live our lives through His Word. Jesus explains it more fully in John 8:31, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Spending time reading God’s word will open your eyes to exactly how He wants you to live your life. It is our road map in this life and should be our sustaining force behind everything we do. Abiding in His Word is how we know Him.

2. Prayer

In addition to finding out how God wants you to live your life and how He has laid out His perfect guidelines, spending time in prayer draws you nearer to God. It strengthens your relationship and God hears you. Even if you are frustrated and confused, tell Him that. He wants to know every facet of who you are, He is a God who cares (1 Peter 5:7). I don’t know about you, but I have trouble staying focused during my prayers, so I almost always journal. You will be surprised how God will transform your situation once you surrender your worries onto Him and seek His truth through His word.

Studying God’s word and prayer are two of the Christian’s best weapons to battle this world. As you enter into whatever adventure you are about to face, I want to encourage you to hold fast to your identity: a daughter of the Most High. Keeping this identity at the forefront of your mind will enable you to make decisions and choices that bring glory to Him. Proverbs 3:5 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.” Lean into the Lord. Surrender your problems onto Him because He loves you. As you keep your gaze transfixed upon Him, all your problems will slowly fade as you focus on His goodness and allow him to guide you.